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What Is Your Definition of Friend?

I could write you a letter,
But what would it say?
Could it make things better?
Would it make everything okay?

I could write you a song,
Full of love hope and grace.
Would you tell me what went wrong?
Could you say it to my face?
What is a friend? We all know a lot of people, we call them acquaintances. We work with a lot of people, mostly referred to as co-workers. We also have come across colleagues, classmates, roommates, neighbors and even family! What, then, makes them stand out as a friend? What promotes them to the next level?

Could it be time? If you have known someone since elementary school, and you are now a college graduate, is that person a friend? Does time automatically decide ones status? Even if you only share festive cards once a year? Are they still a friend due to their 'renewal of friendship' once a year at holidays? Is their holiday card simply a way to tell the other person, that you are still in the game, therefore still your friend? And is this done, so that in the future, if you need something this friend has to offer, you can tell them that you are their oldest friend, so you owe me? What are old friends for?
The tender words are spoken
Each body and soul bared
Told secrets over endless days
Often doing more than dared

New world beyond my door
With intrigued and intensity
Now we have shared our hearts
A bond now made it permanently
My greatest fear that I will lost most of my memories about my oldest friends. Some of them are still well keep, but others are deteriorating away. It was like my new memories of friends keep pushing my old memories far back in my vault of mind. I miss their presence but it was like ages ago. I afraid to call or meet them because I don't think we will have anything to talk about. But I do know one thing, I will do whatever it takes to keep them inside.
It took us little time and effort
The bonding as strong as glue
I now promise never to untie
The strings I have tied with you

The understanding of each other
Breaths to take, we breathe the air
As the relationship interchanges
Knowing our loving hearts are there
I have met a lot of friends from my heavily involve what so called online networking sites through Myspace, Facebook, Friendster and a lot more less famous sites. Adding all of them together, I believe it will accumulates more than 3000 friends.

We are usually 'friends' with them every time we're online, have their screen names on instant messenger but rarely IM them, and you would stop and talk with them for a few minutes if you ran into them on the street somewhere randomly (like, 'whoa, what are you up to these days? ahhh, cool! cya!'), but you wouldn't take the time to have coffee or dinner with them. But do all of them you call friends? No, we call them good acquaintances. You only meet them in cyberspace but you wouldn't really have anything to talk to them about if you are not in a large social setting.
The greatest Gift,
in the end
was a family
and a Friend.
An ear to lend
a hand to hold,
and you,
my Friend -
your heart of gold.
Finally, I have finished this post. It does took me a lot of time (plus, I suddenly got a fever couple days before) but I hope it will makes you to think and asking yourself, how do you define a friend??

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Sweetiepie said...

WOW!you did a great job!This is such a good definition.Thanks for being my friend.Take care!I define a friend as a good supporter.

waliz said...

hi bluecrystaldude''
hope u feel better now..

A friend is someone who goes with you in the good times and bad times.'

Good friends are always by your side. When you're playing they don't walk away.

They never fight with you because then they aren't your friend.

If you don't have any friends then you aren't friendly.

have a nice day....:D

bluecrystaldude said...

Hye sweetiepie. I am glad you like it. A good supporter is like our backbone right? nice and meaningful :D

bluecrystaldude said...

Hi waliz, I am much better now (I skip two hours lecturer today :)

Heh, I always fight with my friends! lol. I like to fight with them because that is the time I know their true attitudes :PP

WoW said...

in Chinese proverb, it says like this " a person dies without any regret in life if he/she can find a friend that knows him/her best" I think many of us do have a lot of friends, the key is how many of them are dependable, trustworthy or they are there when you are in deep trouble..

bluecrystaldude said...

very true indeed, wow. There is also a says that if you can count your true friends in one of your hand, you are lucky enough.

I believe I only have found 2 at this moment. *sigh*

bluedreamer27 said...

oh you inspired me again blue
for me friend is someone you can count on and someone amuses you during your despair time and someone who corrcting your mistakes sa as to take you to the right path
i do also believe that even our parents can be our friends too
friends are someone you are comportable to be with

bluecrystaldude said...

Thanks bluedreamer27. I sure hope that I do inspire people. Thanks for the compliment.

I am interested about parents can be our friends too. In my culture, I am not sure whether parents could be your best friends too. We certainly have a more rigid rules and boundary to follow. Most of the time they will do most of the talking. *sigh*. Thank God my parents are more open minded :D

Dann said...

hi bluecrystaldude,,
awesome post. Friends are an important part of our life and we cannot imagine our life without friends.
"True friends come in the good times when we tell them to, and come in the bad times.....without calling."

have a great time ;)

Hye said...

What is a friend?... There are different types of friends... they can be best friends, true friends, simple friends, acquaintances, or just colleagues. I think when you say true friends, they are the ones who are hard to find. I think I made a post in my blog about the difference of simple and true friends before.

By the way, Congratulations for being a Certified Honest Blogger. Receive your award at Space of Reality.

Take care!!!


sutradara said...

blue,i agree with's quite rare to find parents who are open-minded like yours, in our culture.

and true friends are very hard to find.once found,we should treasure them dearly.they are the ones who would tell us what we have and not what we want to hear.

yar,blue can i quote an excerpt of your post in my website..found them inspirational :D

fatia said...

One can have many friends but true friends are those who fill our hearts and thoughts with so much warmth and love just by thinking of them.

Alam Setia said...

emm.... macam2 definasi kawan. carilah yg terbaik

Leon said...

To me a friend is someone you can reveal your true self to. Your thoughts, hopes, dreams, secrets, etc.

cardiogirl said...

My standards of "friends" are extremely high, thus I have very few people I actually call friends.

Mostly I define a friend as a person I trust to tell personal information. If I trust that person to take it in and not use it against me, that person is considered a friend.

However, it takes many, many months, possibly years of me knowing the other person before that person is "upgraded" in my opinion to friend.

I do not share personal information about myself in real life. On my blog I lay it bare because I do not "know" my readers and I do not have to actually face them in real life.

It's kind of odd, actually, that I am so open on my blog versus how private I am in real life.

But that's my definition of friend. That person has to prove to me, first, that he or she is trustworthy. And that is a big task, in my opinion.

Hye said...

Hello BlueCrystalDude... Just dropping by to say Hello... Hope your schooling is pretty well :D

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Love and Blessings,


bluecrystaldude said...

hi dann! Thanks. But a special friend is a rare as a gem :D


A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!
A simple friend reads this message and deletes it.
A real friend passes it on and sends it back to you!

I have checked your post Hye!I agreed with you. Plus, I usually don't send this back to my friends because my true friends always know that I do not like to give them something that is not specially made for them. Forwarding something that was written by others to your special ones just wont make them more special, but will make them ordinary :D

bluecrystaldude said...

Hi sutradara.. Thanks for the visit and commenting. You are welcome to quote an excerpt of this post in your website. Just make sure you link it back to me.

Thanks :D


Hi fatia.. Thanks for your feedback. I would love to see you around near the future :D

bluecrystaldude said...

salam alam setia.. Betul2 memang banyak definasi kawan ni. cuma kita perlu tahu mana yang baik utk dipilih. Thanks for dropping by! :DD


Hi leon, thanks for the feedback and your visit here. I am hoping to see you come here again. :D

bluecrystaldude said...

wow cardiogirl, I am impressed. The harder to be your friends that means, you treat them really special right? I sure hope to be your friend here :D

bluecrystaldude said...

hi angelbaby!Thank you very much!! :DD

AntiBarbie said...

I'd define it as someone I have a deep connection with and socialize with that I am not related to or involved in a romantic relationship with.

That's the best I can come up with :)

Hye said...

Hello Blue.. I got your comment.. thanks for sharing IT :D

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AngelBaby said...

Thanks for all the kind words. It was a real honor to receive this award.

A true friend is one that will be there for you whether you are happy or sad. One that you can trust with anything and they will still be your friend. A true friend is a treasure to be sure.

Love and Blessings,

bluecrystaldude said...

Thanks antibarbie. I am looking forward for poem about your friends and then mayb I could use it in my next post :DD


A true friend is a treasure to be sure. Nicely said. However, is it possible that sometimes, a true friend may not become one after a long period of time?

bluedreamer27 said...

culture is good to follow but you can disobey that if your intention was good and youre in the right path
me and my parents have a great bonding as if weare friends although we still have limitation as of we must still respect them and do our responsinbilities as their son

bluecrystaldude said...

hi bluedreamer27

that seems to apply in my family too. Good for us I guess. I really thought my parents are really cool! :DD

mr_viruz said...

that was awesome well for me it is a love a love that is not just build with brotherhood but trust faith care and value

mr_viruz said...

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